Dating a Filipina

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Dating a Filipina

By Ann Dela Cruz – Johnson (Filipina) for BoracayReviews.com. June 4, 2011

The golden characteristics of Filipina women that make them perfect wives.

Filipinas (mostly because of our Asian heritage) strive to stay thin for their husbands. We take care of ourselves and we like looking pleasant to make our husbands proud.
We take care of our family. The kids and the husband come first in our priority list. Then ourselves is only second.
We love to do houseworks and cook meals. In exchange, we appreciate compliments, kind words, and maybe a little offer of help from time to time.
Filipinas enjoy working and making our own money also. Though in the Philippines, it is customary that the husband is still the provider of the house, who pays what can be agreed upon by the couple if the money is tight. We also do not forget our family of origin. Don’t be surprised if your Filipina wife will send money to her parents from time to time, helping our parents have better lives brings us one of the greatest happiness in life.
Filipina women, with the exception of a few, are faithful to their husbands.
They are kind in words, meek in action, and typically shy. Even the highly educated women here are basically shy, especially on first meeting. They wouldn’t talk much or loud. However, as you get to know each other, you will find out that Filipinas love a good company and great conversations.
And like our golden skin, we have golden hearts. We take care of our husband no matter what. There is no divorce in the Philippines, and despite the hardships of life, most couples here stay married until death.

How to Win Her Love?

Despite the distance, love can survive for those who are serious about their relationship from the start. Here is how my husband won my heart:

He never forgot to write me an email everyday. Be it 2 sentences short message on yahoo messenger, or a long love letter on my email. Beautiful words have amazing impact on us. Even if you’re not a couple yet, woo her with words that could buckle her knees. (Don’t make it sound too corny and exaggerated, though.)

He sent me text messages (even just simple ‘goodmorning’ and ‘goodnight’ messages), made me feel special.

He called me on the phone everyday (even for just a minute or two).

Mailed letters used to flow on my doorstep sprayed with his favorite cologne. (Mmmmm… I can still smell those CK1′s until now….)

He sent me flowers from time to time. Maybe once a month or once in two months. Flowers or gifts (like stuffed animals with lovely messages or chocolates) can substitute your physical presence sometimes.

He visited me as soon as he can. And every 2 or 3 months thereafter. Here’s the real test of how serious a man really is, if he shares his most valuable commodity with the woman: time.

I never asked my then boyfriend-turned-fiance-turned-husband money, not even a cent. In the first year that we dated (long distance, even after his first visits), I spent my own personal money for text messages, letters, and cards that I sent him. He offered many times but I vehemently refused because I didn’t feel that it was right. And I wanted him to know that he doesn’t need to buy my love, I was giving it to him without expecting anything in return.

When we got engaged, I accepted the money he sent as allowance for his travel arrangements (I booked his hotels, bought the tickets for his domestic flights, arranged for cab/ taxi every time he came to visit, and arranged for our local trips, e..g. Boracay Island), then the wedding preparation, and arrangement for our honeymoon abroad. I enjoyed every minute of all these.

Money Matters:

Financial concerns are probably the most presented problems by women to men (or sometimes vice versa!) online. Be wary of sending money to somebody you don’t know. Here are the common reasons presented:

A family member (mom, dad, sibling, grandparents, etc) is sick;
Somebody died (family member, a pet, a distant relative, etc);
Tuition fees or other immediate fees need to be paid;
Parents won’t let her date a foreigner (unless he gives them money);
Needs of “gifts” and “presents” to prove your love;
Couldn’t get online anymore because of financial constraints;
And many more…

*Note: It would not be bad to send your lady love money for her personal expenses, or her parents if you are volunteering to do so (she would appreciate it!). However, if it is truly against your will, it is better to avoid creating a stressful situation from the very beginning.

Here are tips on how to avoid being asked for money:

Simply avoid gold diggers. You’ll recognize these kind of women when they continually ask you for support.
Don’t show off. Whether you have or you don’t have money to give away, don’t volunteer paying for certain things unless you already have a mutual trust.
Find a girl who is not too poor and not too rich (these extremes can be high maintenance).
Find a girl whose family members have jobs. There is less tendency that they’ll ask for financial support or be dependent on you later on.
A girl who is educated can get a good job.

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Dating a Filipina